Have you ever had someone ask you the name of a movie you recently viewed, and suddenly a thought passes through your head, “Oh no, I don’t think I remember!” And of course you can’t remember it! Negative thoughts or remarks are memory killers. It’s like we suddenly tell our brain, “Don’t recall the information.” The same thing happens with children when you use phrases like; “Why can’t you remember?” or “How could you have forgotten that already?” They begin to believe there is something wrong with their brain and memory.
Negative thoughts or remarks are memory killers. It’s like we suddenly tell our brain, “Don’t recall the information.”
Try using the positive approach. If your child is learning to read and for the umpteenth time doesn’t remember one of the words, relax and say, “Take your time. You have a great memory and it will come to you,” or any type of positive reassuring. Also remember that children learn differently. Suggest breaking the word up into phonetic syllables. Use colored markers and write each syllable in a different color. This works well for memorizing spelling words too. Draw pictures or make associations with other things to strengthen memorization. Audio learners benefit from hearing the word spoken, emphasizing each syllable.
The process of remembering anything, is simple. Let’s say you want to remember a person’s name. The key is focus. Listen to the name. If it’s unusual, ask how it’s spelled. Make a funny association with the name and the person. Whenever I meet someone new, I repeat their name and look for something in their appearance to make an association. Recently I met a person named “Lorraine”. I broke her name into 2 parts, low and rain and visualized a very low hanging cloud over her head, with rain falling all over her face. Since I’m a visual learner, it worked for me.
Sum it up – How to Develop a Super Memory
1. Positive statements about your memory or your child’s.
2. Use a memory key based on the person’s learning style.
3. Believe you will remember. Teach your child to believe in their amazing memory abilities!